This is a
difficult book to review, or indeed, recommend, without giving away a key plot
twist, and it is important that you begin reading it without knowing the catch
- although, I would never have picked this up without being spoiled, so there
is that. Rosemary, our narrator, started life with two siblings but now, at
college, may as well be an only child. Both her sister, Fern, and brother,
Lowell, have vanished, and she does not know how to find them. Rosemary is
twenty-two, but she sounds young for her age as she tells us she's going to
'start in the middle' of her story, and her early involvement with a girl who
makes a scene in the college cafeteria seems to confirm our first impressions.
The girl enters, shouting and smashing things, but as she's escorted from the
premises by the police, Rosemary draws attention to herself by deliberately
throwing her glass on the floor. Though she began as a shocked, innocent
bystander, Rosemary is suddenly in custody as well.
It's Rosemary's voice that will make or break
this story for the reader, and I'm afraid I never warmed to her, even as we
find out the reasons behind her peculiarities. I found her irritatingly
whimsical, even in the face of some of the darkest parts of the story she tells
- perhaps this is her defence mechanism, but I often wanted to see things from
the point of view of her older brother, Lowell, much angrier and much less
passive. She also indulges in twee asides too frequently: 'When I run the
world, librarians will be exempt from tragedy. Even their smaller sorrows will
last only for as long as you can take out a book.' This voice culminates in the
ending of the novel, which feels too convenient and too easy, good as it is to
see some of the things Rosemary has hoped for coming to pass. Similarly, I
found Rosemary's explicit reflections on whether she is telling us the 'middle'
of her story now, or 'the beginning of the end', or 'the end of the beginning'
too obvious. I love novels told out of order, but somehow We Are All Completely
Beside Ourselves managed to feel simultaneously too structured and too
confusing. Some of Rosemary's narrative choices made sense, but others seemed
unnecessary.
There was a lot that I genuinely liked about this
novel, despite not being able to fall in love with it. Rosemary's subtle
reflections on how she has never been able to escape the experiment she took
part in as a child are fascinating, as is the implication that the experiment
has achieved opposite results to those intended. More broadly, the story made
me reflect on childhood and how difficult it is for children to communicate
with adults. Rosemary's father is a psychologist, and so Rosemary's musings on
psychology and the findings of figures such as Piaget throughout the novel feel
natural, and the challenges she poses interesting. Miscommunication dogs
Rosemary's story, not because it is impossible to understand each other but
because we believe we can't. Another well-written thread focuses on the
unreliability of Rosemary's childhood memories, as she tries to work out why
she was sent away aged five; again, Karen Joy Fowler interweaves Freud into the
narrative with the lightest of touches. Ironically, once the bulk of the
mystery is cleared up, I found the last third of the novel much more gripping,
as Rosemary finally faced up to issues I felt she'd been dodging for a long
time.
Given its subject-matter, I thought I would adore We Are All Completely Beside Ourselves, but instead I'm left with a sense of wasted potential. I wish we'd been able to escape Rosemary's narrative, and that the plot had been less focused on the family-story tragedy elements and more on the broader ethical and political questions that the topic raises. Nevertheless, there's more here than in most novels to make you think.
Given its subject-matter, I thought I would adore We Are All Completely Beside Ourselves, but instead I'm left with a sense of wasted potential. I wish we'd been able to escape Rosemary's narrative, and that the plot had been less focused on the family-story tragedy elements and more on the broader ethical and political questions that the topic raises. Nevertheless, there's more here than in most novels to make you think.